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CAL – Item # B-29 – Opening Our Hearts, Transforming Our Losses


B-29WHAT I LEARNED: 1. I won this book in a raffle basket many moons ago but I was afraid to read it because it was about grief & loss.  I thought if I did, something bad would happen – which makes about as much sense as not making a last will & testament means I can’t die yet.  Then my boyfriend passed away about 5 months ago & again I didn’t want to read it because I thought it would only make me cry even more & I’m so tired of being sad.  But it seems I was meant to read this book right at this particular time in my life.  For me, this book wasn’t just another book – it became a pillow.  It gave me rest & helped me to sleep.

2. All different types of loss are covered with explanations, sharings, & questions for reflection on each of the 9 chapters.  It’s almost impossible to be involved with alcoholism, or addiction of any kind, & not be touched by loss loss of dreams, one’s childhood, a loved one, or a sense of one’s own self.  I learned that although I may not have acknowledged it properly, I’ve actually been grieving for much of my life – even when my boyfriend was still alive & my “perfect” relationship was on life support.  This book’s overall theme is not one of sadness, but instead it’s a gentle reminder that grief is a process just like recovery.  They both take time & are buoyed by hope.

3. I have many favorite lines from this book, but the one that has really stayed with me is from page 39: “What I have lost is mainly an illusion of what I thought life would be.”


2 thoughts on “CAL – Item # B-29 – Opening Our Hearts, Transforming Our Losses

  1. This is one of my “go to” books when I need comfort. I recently gave it away to a friend hoping that she would find hope. Thanks for the reminder that I need to buy myself a copy today! Patty L.

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