WHAT I LEARNED: 1. I won this book in a raffle basket many moons ago but I was afraid to read it because it was about grief & loss. I thought if I did, something bad would happen – which makes about as much sense as not making a last will & testament means I can’t die yet. Then my boyfriend passed away about 5 months ago & again I didn’t want to read it because I thought it would only make me cry even more & I’m so tired of being sad. But it seems I was meant to read this book right at this particular time in my life. For me, this book wasn’t just another book – it became a pillow. It gave me rest & helped me to sleep.
2. All different types of loss are covered with explanations, sharings, & questions for reflection on each of the 9 chapters. It’s almost impossible to be involved with alcoholism, or addiction of any kind, & not be touched by loss… loss of dreams, one’s childhood, a loved one, or a sense of one’s own self. I learned that although I may not have acknowledged it properly, I’ve actually been grieving for much of my life – even when my boyfriend was still alive & my “perfect” relationship was on life support. This book’s overall theme is not one of sadness, but instead it’s a gentle reminder that grief is a process just like recovery. They both take time & are buoyed by hope.
3. I have many favorite lines from this book, but the one that has really stayed with me is from page 39: “What I have lost is mainly an illusion of what I thought life would be.”